MULTITASKING

 The Multitasking Generation

Given an approximation of multi-tasking now today on day 82% of the generation of children are online, according to the Pew Internet and American Life Project. Like the computer, of course, is offering the thing radio CD and much more - games, movies, email. He great finding of a survey of 2005 of them U.S. 8 to 18 years was that them children spent a much time using them means electronic that was constant to 6.5 hours to the day but that were of the packing more exhibition media in that time: value of 8.5 hours, thanks to "media multitasking"-listen iTunes, watching a DVD and messaging friends all to the same time. Increasingly, as hungry members of American families generation media was not only sitting down to watch a TV show with your friends or family. A quarter to a third of them, according to the survey, say at the same time absorb some other means "almost always" while watching TV, listening to music, using the computer or even during the reading.

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bibliography:

Wallis, C. (2006). The multitasking generation. Time Magazine, 167(13), 48-55.

Perfect couple

How to Be a Perfect Couple

They are happy couples who learn the differences and difficulties that are experiencing daily life so together to spend the days themselves create something special. Great relationships require effort and care already so is will support between them but learn them together always will feel happy and satisfied, even there are relationships where the problems always exist, but the reward for enduring this love within, definitely worth worth.

Steps for good communication between couples:

1:Earn her trust and keep
2:Confide in each other about things.
3:Be willing to compromise
4:Practice patience and forgiveness
5:Enjoy some time apart from each other
6:Encourage your partner.
7:Respect each other. 

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Source:http://m.wikihow.com/Be-a-Perfect-Couple

Multitasking is killing your brain

Our brains weren't built to multitask.

Our brains are designed to focus on one thing at a time, and bombarding them with information only slows them down.

MIT neuroscientist Earl Miller notes that our brains are "not wired to multitask well... when people think they're multitasking, they're actually just switching from one task to another very rapidly. And every time they do, there's a cognitive cost."

This constant task-switching encourages bad brain habits. When we complete a tiny task (sending an email, answering a text message, posting a tweet), we are hit with a dollop of dopamine, our reward hormone. Our brains love that dopamine, and so we're encouraged to keep switching between small mini-tasks that give us instant gratification.

This creates a dangerous feedback loop that makes us feel like we're accomplishing a ton, when we're really not doing much at all (or at least nothing requiring much critical thinking). In fact, some even refer to email/Twitter/Facebook-checking as a neural addiction.

Multitasking lowers your work quality and efficiency.

Multitasking makes it more difficult to organize thoughts and filter out irrelevant information, and it reduces the efficiency and quality of our work.

A study at the University Of London showed that subjects who multitasked while performing cognitive tasks experienced significant IQ drops. In fact, the IQ drops were similar to what you see in individuals who skip a night of sleep or who smoke marijuana. Now that's a terrifying thought.

Multitasking has also been found to increase production of cortisol, the stress hormone. Having our brain constantly shift gears pumps up stress and tires us out, leaving us feeling mentally exhausted (even when the work day has barely begun).

The biggest instigator of multitasking mayhem? Our inboxes. Some studies have shown that even the opportunity to multitask, such as knowledge of an unread email in your inbox, can reduce your effective IQ by 10 points! The constant thrill of a new bolded email in our inbox keeps us ever-distracted. A McKinsey Global Institute Study found that employees spend 28 percent of their workweek checking emails.

Email is problematic, but texting is even worse, demanding even more immediacy than email, having us check it more adamantly as a result.

Protect yourself from the multitasking mental massacre by establishing an e-mail checking schedule. Commit yourself to checking emails only three times a day, (maybe when you get into work in the morning, at lunch time, and before leaving work at the end of the day). Turn off texting notifications and choose specific times to check your phone as well.

Multitasking men have it the worst.

For men, multitasking can drop IQ as much as 15 points, essentially turning you into the cognitive equivalent of an 8-year-old. Don't be surprised when you find yourself stocking up on pop rocks.

The damage could be permanent.

New research suggests the possibility that cognitive damage associated with multi-tasking could be permanent.

A study from the University of Sussex (UK) ran MRI scans on the brains of individuals who spent time on multiple devices at once (texting while watching TV, for example). The MRI scans showed that subjects who multitasked more often had less brain density in the anterior cingulate cortex. That's the area responsible for empathy and emotional control.

The one caveat is that research isn't detailed enough to determine if multitasking is responsible for these affects, or if existing brain damage results in multitasking habits. Still, no matter how you spin it, multitasking is no good.

The lesson? Multitasking is not a skill to add to the resume, but rather a bad habit to put a stop to. Turn off notifications, create set email checking time slots throughout the day (rather than constant inbox refreshing), and put your mind to the task at hand.

Bibliography:

Kim, L. (15 de julio de 2015). Inc. Obtenido de http://www.inc.com/larry-kim/why-multi-tasking-is-killing-your-brain.html

 

MULTITASKING GENERATION

Be a multitasking person requires a lot of concentration and skill to successfully perform several actions simultaneously.

Scientifically it is proven that women can do multiple actions at the same time, on the other hand, men can not do more than one thing and if they tried unsatisfactory result would be bad either.

But even so, if we talk about the differences between young now or generation M, against adults, we can say that Generation M could be more tasking than adults, because young people are more active than adults . An example of this is that we can do several things on the computer or on the web, but adults will take a while to understand things because they are new to them 

Next this is an example about the children of a couple:


It's 9:30 p.m., and Stephen and Georgina Cox know exactly where their children are. Well, their bodies, at least. Piers, 14, is holed up in his bedroom--eyes fixed on his computer screen--where he has been logged onto a MySpace chat room and AOL Instant Messenger (IM) for the past three hours. His twin sister Bronte is planted in the living room, having commandeered her dad's iMac--as usual. She, too, is busily IMing, while chatting on her cell phone and chipping away at homework.



By all standard space-time calculations, the four members of the family occupy the same three-bedroom home in Van Nuys, Calif., but psychologically each exists in his or her own little universe. Georgina, 51, who works for a display-cabinet maker, is tidying up the living room as Bronte works, not that her daughter notices. Stephen, 49, who juggles jobs as a squash coach, fitness trainer, event planner and head of a cancer charity he founded, has wolfed down his dinner alone in the kitchen, having missed supper with the kids. He, too, typically spends the evening on his cell phone and returning e-mails--when he can nudge Bronte off the computer. "One gets obsessed with one's gadgets," he concedes.

Zooming in on Piers' screen gives a pretty good indication of what's on his hyperkinetic mind. O.K., there's a Google Images window open, where he's chasing down pictures of Keira Knightley. Good ones get added to a snazzy Windows Media Player slide show that serves as his personal e-shrine to the actress. Several IM windows are also open, revealing such penetrating conversations as this one with a MySpace pal:

• MySpacer: suuuuuup!!! (Translation: What's up?)
• Piers: wat up dude
• MySpacer: nmu (Not much. You?)
• Piers: same

Naturally, iTunes is open, and Piers is blasting a mix of Queen, AC/DC, classic rock and hip-hop. Somewhere on the screen there's a Word file, in which Piers is writing an essay for English class. "I usually finish my homework at school," he explains to a visitor, "but if not, I pop a book open on my lap in my room, and while the computer is loading, I'll do a problem or write a sentence. Then, while mail is loading, I do more. I get it done a little bit at a time."

Bronte has the same strategy. "You just multitask," she explains. "My parents always tell me I can't do homework while listening to music, but they don't understand that it helps me concentrate." The twins also multitask when hanging with friends, which has its own etiquette. "When I talk to my best friend Eloy," says Piers, "he'll have one earpiece [of his iPod] in and one out." Says Bronte: "If a friend thinks she's not getting my full attention, I just make it very clear that she is, even though I'm also listening to music."

SOURCE:

Wallis, C. (2006). The multitasking generation. Time Magazine, 167(13), 48-55.
Viera, V. (2016).

How To Have An Awesome Relationship

1. Talk to your partner

Sit down with your partner to establish goals for both you as individuals and as a couple.

You don’t need to make this a formal meeting complete with an Excel spreadsheet!

Perhaps grab lattes at the local coffee shop and spend some casual time together.

Make sure you are ready to listen and are really open to any ideas from your partner. Most importantly, let them finish their thoughts without interruption.

A perfect couple, both in and out of the bedroom, firmly focuses on communication, so always try  to really listen to one another.

2. Put your plan into action

After you and your partner have completed your brainstorming session on new ways to add some spark to your relationship, you should make these thoughts concrete and actionable.

Need help putting your plan into action? Consider using a book such as Carole Gaskell’s “Your Pocket Life Coach: Take 10 Minutes a Day to Transform Your Life and Your Work,” which can help you to efficiently move forward with your action plan.

3. Focus on changes you yourself can make

Some couples focus too much on what they think their partner should be doing or changing instead of reflecting on how they themselves can be the catalyst for change. Trying to change someone is just a recipe for disaster!

Think about what things you can do to contribute to the relationship. Remember that you are half of the equation of the union with your partner.

Whether you want to have better or more frequent sex, more couple time, or new adventures, you need to think about what you can do to make it happen instead of blaming your significant other for any perceived deficiencies.

By being honest with yourself, you might also uncover some of your subconscious faults, which once corrected should allow you to be a better partner and communicator.

4. Enjoy the moment

If you want to have a deeper sexual relationship, it helps to get into a more sensual state of mind. A large part of feeling sexier and living a sexier lifestyle is to always try to slow down and enjoy the moment.

Even if the “moment” is only the thirty minutes you spend together every evening after work and after putting the kids to bed:  make that time count.

Take pleasure in the little things, such as savoring a well-cooked meal, taking a relaxing shower together, or even taking turns giving massages.

These types of simple activities can help you to relax and further enjoy time with your partner. They are also multi-sensory experiences which can get you more into a sensual state of mind.

5. Hit the sheets (together!)

While millions of people resolve to exercise more at the beginning of a year, those few who actually do it see an immediate payoff.

Revving up your heart rate a few times a week is a great way to boost your confidence, increase libido and make you more attractive to your partner.

Remember that sex is a great way to burn calories, so be sure you put in as much time in the bedroom as you do at the gym for a well-toned and happy body…and a fulfilling relationship.

Bibliography

Fulbright, Y. (2015). inspiyr. Obtenido de http://inspiyr.com/5-steps-to-make-2013-the-best-year-for-your-relationship/

PERFECT PARTNER

  How to have a perfect partner!!!!!

Between a man and a woman behavours are different. A woman is more delicate than a man, with this I mean that a woman requires more attention and dedication. On the other hand the man by nature is considered the strongest and protector. These differences are complemented when men and women come together.

Who demands more?

Men are simple, do not require much, when they want to choose some clothes they just pick and that`s it, but women take thei´re time to do many things beacuse they want to get a good result.

If we talk about stereotypes, women are always looking for the perfect man and if the do not found it, the create a new one.

 

IF YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP WHAT ARE THE SIGNS TO KNOW IF YOU RELATIONSHIP ENDS OR NOT

Ten Signs Your Relationship Isn’t Working: Break Up or Fix It

Problem: One of You Thinks the Other Is Needy

Relationships are great, but they work best when it’s two people coming together to make a greater whole. One of the most important parts of that is being an independent person who holds his own. Writer and researcher David Deida discusses this a lot, speaking about the importance in modern relationships of people to maintain their sense of identity and independence:

The “modern” style of relationship is based on two independent people coming together and working out an equitable partnership. Each partner is expected to shoulder half the responsibilities, more or less, right down the middle. Each often has their own source of income, and together they negotiate a 50/50 plan to divide household duties, parenting, and financial obligations.”

Solution: Plan for time apart. Cultivate outside interests.

Reasons to Break Up: When the two of you have a unitary identity and you can’t pull yourself out of it despite your best efforts. Losing yourself is not good or healthy for anyone. If you can’t find your identity even after trying repeatedly, do both of you a favor and call it quits.

Problem: You’re in a High-Conflict Relationship
You guys fight. A lot. Even by the standards of people who fight a lot. No matter what, it seems like the two of you can’t even do the simplest things without it becoming a huge deal. In fact, as we recently referenced in an infographic from The Art of Charm, constant fighting is the cause of nearly one-third of all breakups.

It’s easy to see why: living your life walking on eggshells, wondering what’s going to cause the next big blow up is miserable. At the same time, maybe you still love her and want to be together, but you just don’t want the fights. How do you know if it’s possible to keep your relationship and ditch the conflict?

Solution: Counseling, mediation and anger management.

Reasons to Break Up: You just can’t stop fighting

Problem: Jealousy Is a Constant Undercurrent

It’s probably not that surprising that infidelity is a major cause of breakups, to the tune of over 36 percent. However, you don’t need cheat to deal with some of the negatives associated with it, namely jealousy. 


Jealousy can originate from one person, though more often than not, it’s a dynamic that involves you both. You worry when she talks to another guy, she worries when you even mention a woman. With that kind of energy in a relationship it can be draining as well as limiting on both of your freedom. The question is how do you fix things and reverse the trend?

Solution: Become more comfortable with yourself.

Reasons to Break Up: You can stop it, but she can’t.

 Problem: One or Both of You Is Bored

Boredom is almost inevitable in relationships if the relationship lasts long enough. It is easy to settle into a routine and routines and boredom go together like peanut butter and jelly. The question isn’t whether or not boredom is going to happen; It’s how you’re going to deal with boredom when it does happen. With one in five women breaking up because they missed being single, you need to take boredom seriously.

Solution: Do something new and exciting together.

Reasons to Break Up: Boredom isn’t the real problem.

Problem: Your Sex Life Isn’t What It Used to Be

Much like boredom, your sex life hitting the skids is almost a certainty. That doesn’t mean you can’t do anything about it; It just means that you have to accept the inevitability and be ready for it. So what’s the cure for a sex life that isn’t what it used to be?

Solution: Try new things in the bedroom that maybe you’ve only talked about. 

Reasons to Break Up: You’re just not into the same stuff. 

Problem: One of You Is Always Trying to Change the Other

No one likes it when someone else tries to change them. It places stress on both of you and thus, the whole relationship. Not only does it cause stress, it can also cause resentment and resentment is toxic. So if one or both of you is always trying to change the other one, what do you do?

Solution: Accept that the other person is who they are and demand the same. 

 Reasons to Break Up: One of you can’t let the other person be themselves.


Problem: There’s No Long-Term Potential 
 
Some girls are fun, but there’s nothing really there. Good times, good sex, good laughs… but nothing more tangible than that. Presumably, if you two are more than “just dating,” you want some kind of long-term potential. If you’re not feeling it, that’s a serious problem.

Solution: Evaluate why she is not a keeper.

Reasons to Break Up: The difference between where she is and what you want to great.

Problem: You Don’t Trust Each Other

Trust is a difficult thing. Especially if one of you has done something to violate the other’s trust; But maybe one of you is just not a trusting person or have had experiences in the past that affects your ability to trust. You might even be an untrustworthy person who is projecting how you lie or manipulate onto your partner even if they do not do that. Whatever the issue is, you can’t have a serious relationship without trust. So how do you start building that?

Solution: Begin building trust in small ways. 

Reasons to Break Up: One of you just can’t repair the trust. 

Problem: You Never Go on Dates

It’s funny. They call it “dating,” but a lot of people who are don’t go on a lot of actual dates. This can lead to boredom. It can also lead to “falling out of love,” which was cited by nearly 40 percent of women as a reason for breaking up. So you need to pay attention to this, even when you’re in a long-term relationship.

Solution: Pick a day of the week and make that date night. 

Reasons to Break Up: Just don’t.

Problem: You’re Wondering About Other Women

Maybe you’ve got some chemistry with a woman at work. Maybe it’s the girl who serves you coffee. Maybe you’re just day dreaming a lot about women that you encounter. The point is, you’re wondering about other women.

Solution: Realize it’s normal and not necessarily a reason to break up. 

Reasons to Break Up: You’ve cheated or think you’re going to. 

Source:

AJ Harbinger. (s.f.). Art of Charm. Retrived: http://theartofcharm.com/dating-tips/ten-signs-relationship-isnt-working-break-fix/
Viera, V. (2016)
 

 

PERFECT PARTNER

  How to have a perfect partner!!!!!

Between a man and a woman behavours are different. A woman is more delicate than a man, with this I mean that a woman requires more attention and dedication. On the other hand the man by nature is considered the strongest and protector. These differences are complemented when men and women come together.

Who demands more?

Men are simple, do not require much, when they want to choose some clothes they just pick and that`s it, but women take thei´re time to do many things beacuse they want to get a good result.

If we talk about stereotypes, women are always lookin for the perfect man and if the do not found it, the create a new one.

 

IF YOU ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP WHAT ARE THE SIGNS TO KNOW IF YOU RELATIONSHIP ENDS OR NOT

Ten Signs Your Relationship Isn’t Working: Break Up or Fix It

Problem: One of You Thinks the Other Is Needy

Relationships are great, but they work best when it’s two people coming together to make a greater whole. One of the most important parts of that is being an independent person who holds his own. Writer and researcher David Deida discusses this a lot, speaking about the importance in modern relationships of people to maintain their sense of identity and independence:

The “modern” style of relationship is based on two independent people coming together and working out an equitable partnership. Each partner is expected to shoulder half the responsibilities, more or less, right down the middle. Each often has their own source of income, and together they negotiate a 50/50 plan to divide household duties, parenting, and financial obligations.”

Solution: Plan for time apart. Cultivate outside interests.

Reasons to Break Up: When the two of you have a unitary identity and you can’t pull yourself out of it despite your best efforts. Losing yourself is not good or healthy for anyone. If you can’t find your identity even after trying repeatedly, do both of you a favor and call it quits.

Problem: You’re in a High-Conflict Relationship
You guys fight. A lot. Even by the standards of people who fight a lot. No matter what, it seems like the two of you can’t even do the simplest things without it becoming a huge deal. In fact, as we recently referenced in an infographic from The Art of Charm, constant fighting is the cause of nearly one-third of all breakups.

It’s easy to see why: living your life walking on eggshells, wondering what’s going to cause the next big blow up is miserable. At the same time, maybe you still love her and want to be together, but you just don’t want the fights. How do you know if it’s possible to keep your relationship and ditch the conflict?

Solution: Counseling, mediation and anger management.

Reasons to Break Up: You just can’t stop fighting

Problem: Jealousy Is a Constant Undercurrent

It’s probably not that surprising that infidelity is a major cause of breakups, to the tune of over 36 percent. However, you don’t need cheat to deal with some of the negatives associated with it, namely jealousy. 


Jealousy can originate from one person, though more often than not, it’s a dynamic that involves you both. You worry when she talks to another guy, she worries when you even mention a woman. With that kind of energy in a relationship it can be draining as well as limiting on both of your freedom. The question is how do you fix things and reverse the trend?

Solution: Become more comfortable with yourself.

Reasons to Break Up: You can stop it, but she can’t.

 Problem: One or Both of You Is Bored

Boredom is almost inevitable in relationships if the relationship lasts long enough. It is easy to settle into a routine and routines and boredom go together like peanut butter and jelly. The question isn’t whether or not boredom is going to happen; It’s how you’re going to deal with boredom when it does happen. With one in five women breaking up because they missed being single, you need to take boredom seriously.

Solution: Do something new and exciting together.

Reasons to Break Up: Boredom isn’t the real problem.

Problem: Your Sex Life Isn’t What It Used to Be

Much like boredom, your sex life hitting the skids is almost a certainty. That doesn’t mean you can’t do anything about it; It just means that you have to accept the inevitability and be ready for it. So what’s the cure for a sex life that isn’t what it used to be?

Solution: Try new things in the bedroom that maybe you’ve only talked about. 

Reasons to Break Up: You’re just not into the same stuff. 

Problem: One of You Is Always Trying to Change the Other

No one likes it when someone else tries to change them. It places stress on both of you and thus, the whole relationship. Not only does it cause stress, it can also cause resentment and resentment is toxic. So if one or both of you is always trying to change the other one, what do you do?

Solution: Accept that the other person is who they are and demand the same. 

 Reasons to Break Up: One of you can’t let the other person be themselves.


Problem: There’s No Long-Term Potential 
 
Some girls are fun, but there’s nothing really there. Good times, good sex, good laughs… but nothing more tangible than that. Presumably, if you two are more than “just dating,” you want some kind of long-term potential. If you’re not feeling it, that’s a serious problem.

Solution: Evaluate why she is not a keeper.

Reasons to Break Up: The difference between where she is and what you want to great.

Problem: You Don’t Trust Each Other

Trust is a difficult thing. Especially if one of you has done something to violate the other’s trust; But maybe one of you is just not a trusting person or have had experiences in the past that affects your ability to trust. You might even be an untrustworthy person who is projecting how you lie or manipulate onto your partner even if they do not do that. Whatever the issue is, you can’t have a serious relationship without trust. So how do you start building that?

Solution: Begin building trust in small ways. 

Reasons to Break Up: One of you just can’t repair the trust. 

Problem: You Never Go on Dates

It’s funny. They call it “dating,” but a lot of people who are don’t go on a lot of actual dates. This can lead to boredom. It can also lead to “falling out of love,” which was cited by nearly 40 percent of women as a reason for breaking up. So you need to pay attention to this, even when you’re in a long-term relationship.

Solution: Pick a day of the week and make that date night. 

Reasons to Break Up: Just don’t.

Problem: You’re Wondering About Other Women

Maybe you’ve got some chemistry with a woman at work. Maybe it’s the girl who serves you coffee. Maybe you’re just day dreaming a lot about women that you encounter. The point is, you’re wondering about other women.

Solution: Realize it’s normal and not necessarily a reason to break up. 

Reasons to Break Up: You’ve cheated or think you’re going to. 

Source:

AJ Harbinger. (s.f.). Art of Charm. Retrived: http://theartofcharm.com/dating-tips/ten-signs-relationship-isnt-working-break-fix/
Viera, V. (2016)