1. Talk to your
partner
Sit down with your partner
to establish goals for both you as individuals and as a couple.
You don’t need to make
this a formal meeting complete with an Excel spreadsheet!
Perhaps grab lattes at the
local coffee shop and spend some casual time together.
Make sure you are ready to
listen and are really open to any ideas from your partner. Most importantly,
let them finish their thoughts without interruption.
A perfect couple, both in
and out of the bedroom, firmly focuses on communication, so always try to really listen to one another.
2. Put your plan
into action
After you and your partner
have completed your brainstorming session on new ways to add some spark to your
relationship, you should make these thoughts concrete and actionable.
Need help putting your
plan into action? Consider using a book such as Carole Gaskell’s “Your Pocket
Life Coach: Take 10 Minutes a Day to Transform Your Life and Your Work,” which
can help you to efficiently move forward with your action plan.
3. Focus on
changes you yourself can make
Some couples focus too
much on what they think their partner should be doing or changing instead of
reflecting on how they themselves can be the catalyst for change. Trying to
change someone is just a recipe for disaster!
Think about what things
you can do to contribute to the relationship. Remember that you are half of the
equation of the union with your partner.
Whether you want to have
better or more frequent sex, more couple time, or new adventures, you need to
think about what you can do to make it happen instead of blaming your
significant other for any perceived deficiencies.
By being honest with
yourself, you might also uncover some of your subconscious faults, which once
corrected should allow you to be a better partner and communicator.
4. Enjoy the
moment
If you want to have a
deeper sexual relationship, it helps to get into a more sensual state of mind.
A large part of feeling sexier and living a sexier lifestyle is to always try
to slow down and enjoy the moment.
Even if the “moment” is
only the thirty minutes you spend together every evening after work and after
putting the kids to bed: make that time
count.
Take pleasure in the
little things, such as savoring a well-cooked meal, taking a relaxing shower
together, or even taking turns giving massages.
These types of simple
activities can help you to relax and further enjoy time with your partner. They
are also multi-sensory experiences which can get you more into a sensual state
of mind.
5. Hit the
sheets (together!)
While millions of people
resolve to exercise more at the beginning of a year, those few who actually do
it see an immediate payoff.
Revving up your heart rate
a few times a week is a great way to boost your confidence, increase libido and
make you more attractive to your partner.
Remember that sex is a
great way to burn calories, so be sure you put in as much time in the bedroom
as you do at the gym for a well-toned and happy body…and a fulfilling
relationship.
Bibliography
Fulbright, Y. (2015). inspiyr. Obtenido de
http://inspiyr.com/5-steps-to-make-2013-the-best-year-for-your-relationship/
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